I was watching the brilliant TV show 'Six Feet Under' last week, and there was a particularly interesting conversation between the character of Claire, who was previously an art student but now works in an office, and her Aunt Sarah.
SARAH: Maybe you're not an artist.
CLAIRE: Why would you say that?
SARAH: Did it hurt your feelings when I said it?
CLAIRE: Ah, yeah!
SARAH: Maybe I'm right. Maybe if you were an artist, you'd have laughed when I said that. Like if you told me I was purple, I would laugh because I know I'm not purple. But when I said you weren't an artist you felt bad, maybe because you know there is a grain of truth in it.
So, if I told you that you weren't a writer, how would you feel?